Grief
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The definition itself from cambridge dictionary means very great sadness, especially at the death of someone.
From the definition itself, we can see that it connected to feelings that some may not show it. Which lead us to a couple of stage that I stumble upon from one of the article by medicicenet that there are 7 stage of grief.
Shock or disbelief
Denial
Bargaining
Guilt
Anger
Depression
Acceptance or hope
If we look at the stages I can't say I haven't went through maybe all of it from my own experience. It may hard at first or for the rest of your life but eventually we have to deal with it.
Grief is something that can be really painful for some people. It's something that turns people life upside down from the time that someone you know died through your grieving process, even it might be until the rest of your life.
"People talk about grief as emptiness, but it's not empty. It's full. Heavy. Not an absence to fill. A weight to pull. Your skin caught on hooks chained to rough shoulders made of all the years you thought you'd have." - Elan Mastai
So there is this thoughts that came through me surprisingly and it said; God have plans for us which we never know. We can keep guessing through the process, it might get rough, rougher, good, better, suffer, pains, struggles and which all things feel so heavy in times. We might also feel it's like the end of the world but it's not and until we meet the end goal what He mean for us, we still feel trying our best.
We try to be a better person, to do good to ourself, to people around us and sometimes we might get sick of doing it because sometimes you don't get the same treatment like you treat them and it makes you ask yourself. But at the end of the day, I will say this again and again if I have to, but everyone have their own views in things and how to process it, what I share might be comfortable for you but it might be not too, so it's okay to find another way that make you comfortable as long as it's not dangerous for you and other people around you.
Like I said before, the end goal what He mean for us might be better than what we expected and when the time comes and we are happy, there are times when you think back and all the experiences, the struggles, the pains, the tears and all the feelings you feeling it, it will be worth it but until what we can do is just keep moving forward and do the best we can.
I know this 3 last paragraph might not or might related to the topic but that just something I feel it can be put in so many lessons in our life. And to tell you the truth, grief is still part of the process in my life and it might be will until the rest of my life. Also I just started read this book, motherless daughter and from the review and the small part that I read it already touch my heart and I can relate it a bit.
To be continued...
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